Can we start, when teenage girls come out as bisexual, saying congratulations and then offering support and information instead of questioning them, laughing at them and saying they’re lying?
We don't fit your stereotypes. We don't want to be your fetish. We just want a place to belong.
Anonymous asked: i hope it's not wrong to say i appreciate how you don't hate on "monosexuals". it makes me feel like there's more intra-community solidarity and now i'm more confident we can increase that and support/fight for each other. just, thank you :)
Thank you! This is exactly how I feel. We are the same community.
I feel like there’s a straight senator who opposes gay marriage looking at all the fights between bisexuals and lesbians and pansexuals, twirling his mustache and laughing like “yes, my plan to destroy the community from the inside is working.”
Another thing about pansexual: when I came out to my parents as bisexual, my mom was like “I don’t know what that means.” I can’t even imagine how it would have gone down if I had said I was pansexual. I’m picturing like a whole lot of concern over whether or not I had a fetish for cooking pans.
And I live in San Francisco too, not somewhere where people are unfamiliar with the gay rights movement. Hell, at San Francisco State’s LGBTQI club only a couple people knew what it meant, and they were from tumblr too.
If I have to have a label, shouldn’t it be one where at least more than a few people know what it means? What’s the point, otherwise?
Anonymous asked: why?
well for starters bi means two which means you are saying there are strictly two genders and it has been used to mean attraction to cis men and cis women for literally the entire span of existence so it just irks me lol and i feel like a lot of people who identify as it are aware of these issues and just don’t want to identify as pan also all bisexuals are trash boats
"also all bisexuals are trash boats" well I’m convinced
"Bi means 2 which means there are 2 genders"
Yes, exactly. Its also well-known that lesbians don’t believe in the existence of men. Gay men don’t believe in women.
Like, this is the clearest example of people just making up reasons to hate bisexuals I’ve ever seen.
literally this girl is telling bisexual people that they have to identify as something less “problematic” and “harmful”
i think that’s when you know you should get some fresh air? there is just no harm being caused when someone self-identifies as bi lol
I used to get tons of messages from people saying it would be “better” if I identified as queer. I think pansexual is the new “thing” tumblr wants you to be, that proves that you are cool and radical and unproblematic.
It doesn’t make any sense that bisexual is transphobic. Bisexual “means attracted to 2 genders”. Aren’t trans men actual men? Aren’t trans women actual women? Wouldn’t that mean that they fit into one of the 2 genders?
What always bothers me the most about being told to identify as pan is that its political. They say it’s problematic somehow, to only be attracted to (a) certain gender(s). ATTRACTION ISN’T A POLITICAL STATEMENT. This is incredibly offensive.
If you think bisexuals should identify as pan to prove they are not prejudiced, that doesn’t make any sense. You can be sexually attracted to someone and hate them: ask any male misogynist.
If you think bisexuals should identify as pan because they need to not reinforce the gender binary, that doesn’t make any sense. You shouldn’t need to be sexually attracted to someone for you to believe they are real human beings, and saying that bisexuals need to become pan is exactly what that says. Do you think all lesbians hate men?
And let’s not pretend that most of the bisexuals on here aren’t teenage girls (I’m almost 20, but I was when I got the “you should be pan/queer” messages). You should prioritize CONSENT. You should not tell teenage girls that their sexuality should be a certain way. Doesn’t that remind you of anything? How do you justify that to yourselves?