"pansexual means ur attracted to the person not their gender uwu"
damn. you caught me. the shady bisexual. exclusively attracted to gender. i dont give a shit about your personality. just show me your gender and i’ll fuck that.
We don't fit your stereotypes. We don't want to be your fetish. We just want a place to belong.
Anonymous said: Is it okay for a bisexual to have a preferred gender?
For sure its okay! it’s even common. there’s nothing about being bisexual that requires that you are attracted to every gender equally. for me personally, it changes over time, just like who I am attracted to changes over time.
You might be interested in the Kinsey scale, a way to identify your sexual orientation on a spectrum. It’s not perfect, but when I was just starting to get comfortable with my sexuality it helped me visualize some things.
You could argue that only people who are 3s are “actually” bisexual, but to me that seems silly. A 1 could technically identify as bi, but more than likely they identify as straight. Ultimately it is up to you:)
Anonymous said: i hope it's not wrong to say i appreciate how you don't hate on "monosexuals". it makes me feel like there's more intra-community solidarity and now i'm more confident we can increase that and support/fight for each other. just, thank you :)
Thank you! This is exactly how I feel. We are the same community.
I feel like there’s a straight senator who opposes gay marriage looking at all the fights between bisexuals and lesbians and pansexuals, twirling his mustache and laughing like “yes, my plan to destroy the community from the inside is working.”
Another thing about pansexual: when I came out to my parents as bisexual, my mom was like “I don’t know what that means.” I can’t even imagine how it would have gone down if I had said I was pansexual. I’m picturing like a whole lot of concern over whether or not I had a fetish for cooking pans.
And I live in San Francisco too, not somewhere where people are unfamiliar with the gay rights movement. Hell, at San Francisco State’s LGBTQI club only a couple people knew what it meant, and they were from tumblr too.
If I have to have a label, shouldn’t it be one where at least more than a few people know what it means? What’s the point, otherwise?